You Need and Deserve Self Care
Self Care is still a pretty trendy phrase these days, but I think it can be a very hard concept to get used to if you haven’t been practicing it for a long time. Many of us grew up with no idea what it truly meant to love ourselves. We grew up with poor boundaries, constant peer (or parent) pressure to be thin (not necessarily healthy), or even abuse. These things influence the way that we think about ourselves, which usually leads to not treating ourselves very well.
One common trend I see with clients and followers is that it can be SO hard to understand that you are ALLOWED to love yourself. You are allowed to take care of yourself. It is not selfish! It’s essential! Even more so if you have a family to take care of because you cannot pour from an empty cup.
Sometimes I get clients that are ready to get into HTMA and they often start with their whole families, even if they are the ones that need the most help. I sometimes have to recommend that we work on mama first before we get to the rest of the family. We’re so ingrained to think of everyone else first and we feel like we don’t even need or deserve the extra care for ourselves.
I hope to start changing the way that we’re thinking about ourselves. One of the first steps is to treat yourself well!
You Deserve to Love Yourself
Things to start telling yourself:
- You deserve to eat well
- You deserve to do things for YOUR health, even if that means investing in yourself
- You deserve to ask for help if you need it
- You deserve actual time to yourself, even if it’s just 10 minutes to shower, do some stretching, or to close your eyes and breathe
- You deserve to get quiet time to actually learn who you are as a person
What is Self Care?
Self-care comes in many forms. It doesn’t have to be something time consuming or selfish. It could be something you schedule for 5 minutes a day, or something that lasts for much longer just once a week. It could be something as simple as quiet time in a bath, or as complex as going on a trip.
Some ways to practice self-care:
- Legs on the wall yoga pose (5-15 minutes)
- Listening to music, dancing, watching a show that makes you happy, or reading a book
- Write! If you love writing, start a blog, write a book, or just journal to get your feelings and thoughts out
- Take a trip to a spa (there are a lot more out there that are committing to being organic/all-natural now!), or go for a hair cut, mani/pedi, hair dye (again, lots of options for natural dyes now)
- A relaxing bath with either Epsom salts, dead sea salts, and/or unrefined sea salt
- Find a healing protocol to start and stick with- HTMA is always my favorite to start with. And honestly, this isn’t just plug because we offer these. I truly feel like getting on a solid plan with someone that will help you along the way is one of the best self-care techniques you can use. We all need someone else to guide us and give us a plan on where to start.
- Changing situations like a toxic job or a toxic person in your life
- Walk in nature, even if it is only for 5-10 minutes. Or just do grounding- walk on the grass with your bare feet
- Join groups of like-minded people to chat with, especially if you don’t have anyone in your life to speak with about what you are going through
- Or the other end of the spectrum- start leaving groups if you are a part of too many. Many groups are full of drama, false information, or just add stress to your timeline if the info isn’t relevant to you anymore
- Do yoga, Butekyo breathing, and other stress relieving activities
- Find a hobby- this is something that tends to get pushed aside when we get sick. Find something that you LOVE to do and try to do it daily, even if it is just 5 minutes. Painting, reading, learning instruments, learning languages, swimming, etc. The list is endless here. If you enjoy it, find a way to add it in.
- Create goals for the future, both short and long term. Or make a list of reasons why you are healing yourself and things you would like to achieve once you are feeling up to it
- Limit your social media exposure, or unfollow pages that stress you out!
- Be silly! Laugh! Look at funny videos on YouTube, play with your kids, watch a funny movie you like- laughing truly is a medicine.
- Say no if you need to. If you are not up to going out or keeping an engagement that you have made, you can say no. Don’t push yourself for others unless absolutely necessary